MBTI Step II Facets: Can We Be Too Accommodating?
If you missed it, you can see the first blog post in this series here and the post on the other side of this facet, Questioning, here.
I often ask people who report Accommodating on the MBTI® Step II™ Interpretive Report if they are too accommodating. Usually, the reply is a straightforward and accommodating “yes!” Accommodating people tend to pick their battles when faced with differences of opinion. As a result, they are sometimes seen as “wishy-washy” and as pushovers. When we accommodate too much, it might even look like we don’t care—not good if we want to be part of the decision-making process in the future.
For those of us who are Accommodating, it can be very difficult to suddenly switch gears. I know when I try not to accommodate and my point of view is questioned, I just can’t help but see the other side (just like you can flex your MBTI preferences, you or your client can also practice flexing your MBTI Step II facets). This makes it difficult for me to continue to question. It might look like I’m just giving in, but I’m not. My coaching takeaway is that I need to clarify why I agree in a clear and logical way to better get my point across while also keeping in the forefront what I might have disagreed with in the first place.
Want to learn more about flexing Step II Facets? Take a look at the eBook we created to explain that here. Specifically, see page 17 onward to read about flexing the Questioning and Accommodating facets. Question: In the MBTI® Certification Program, I teach three reasons why the Questioning–Accommodating facet is often out-of-preference. Do you know what those three reasons are?