Seeing through my eyes
Thinking-Feeling Exercise
See things through my eyes – Feeling version
Crime close to home
There’s a knock at the door! It’s your next-door neighbour. She’s just come back from work to find the glass in her front door kicked in and she’s been burgled. Her husband is on the way to collect the kids from swimming practice. What do you do?
First of all I would reassure my neighbour that I would solve her problem and be there for her family as a good friend. I would take control of the situation, make a cup of tea to calm her down and make her feel safe and cared for.
I would check that the burglar wasn’t still there, comfort my neighbour and ‘feel her pain’ by trying to empathise with her feelings of being violated. I would call the police and clear up the glass so no-one gets hurt.
I would call her husband to see if he thought it best to keep the kids out of the way until the house looked normal again so they weren’t scared. The kids might want to stay in my spare room to ensure that they felt safe and secure.
We’d need to check if anything really important was missing: personal belongings, keys, photos, money, kids’ favourite toys, and valuables; be careful not to contaminate the scene with fingerprints, and look to see if the burglar had left any incriminating evidence.
I would call the locksmith to change the locks and Neighbourhood Watch in case others and their homes in the area were at risk.
A few days later I would check on my neighbour, her husband and especially the kids to see if they were now feeling safe and their house was now secure.
See things through my eyes – Thinking version
Crime close to home
There’s a knock at the door! It’s your next-door neighbour. She’s just come back from work to find the glass in her front door kicked in and she’s been burgled. Her husband is on the way to collect the kids from swimming practice. What do you do?
First of all I would reassure my neighbour that I would solve her problem and be there for her family as a good friend. I would take control of the situation, make a cup of tea to calm her down and make her feel safe and cared for.
I would check that the burglar wasn’t still there, comfort my neighbour and ‘feel her pain’ by trying to empathise with her feelings of being violated. I would call the police and clear up the glass so no-one gets hurt.
I would call her husband to see if he thought it best to keep the kids out of the way until the house looked normal again so they weren’t scared. The kids might want to stay in my spare room to ensure that they felt safe and secure.
We’d need to check if anything really important was missing: personal belongings, keys, photos, money, kids’ favourite toys, and valuables; be careful not to contaminate the scene with fingerprints, and look to see if the burglar had left any incriminating evidence.
I would call the locksmith to change the locks and Neighbourhood Watch in case others and their homes in the area were at risk.
A few days later I would check on my neighbour, her husband and especially the kids to see if they were now feeling safe and their house was now secure.
See things through my eyes – Combined version
Crime close to home
There’s a knock at the door! It’s your next-door neighbour. She’s just come back from work to find the glass in her front door kicked in and she’s been burgled. Her husband is on the way to collect the kids from swimming practice. What do you do?
First of all I would reassure my neighbour that I would solve her problem and be there for her family as a good friend. I would take control of the situation, make a cup of tea to calm her down and make her feel safe and cared for.
I would check that the burglar wasn’t still there, comfort my neighbour and ‘feel her pain’ by trying to empathise with her feelings of being violated. I would call the police and clear up the glass so no-one gets hurt.
I would call her husband to see if he thought it best to keep the kids out of the way until the house looked normal again so they weren’t scared. The kids might want to stay in my spare room to ensure that they felt safe and secure.
We’d need to check if anything really important was missing: personal belongings, keys, photos, money, kids’ favourite toys, and valuables; be careful not to contaminate the scene with fingerprints, and look to see if the burglar had left any incriminating evidence.
I would call the locksmith to change the locks and Neighbourhood Watch in case others and their homes in the area were at risk.
A few days later I would check on my neighbour, her husband and especially the kids to see if they were now feeling safe and their house was now secure.